Category Archives: Yoruba Traditional Marriage

“Obinrin ti kò ni orogún, kò ti mọ àrùn ara rẹ̀”: A woman who has no co-wife cannot yet identify her disease

Òwe yi fi ara han ni itan iyàwó Aṣojú-ọba, ti a ò pè ni Tinumi pẹ̀lú ọmọ rẹ̀ kan ṣoṣo, ọkùnrin ti a mọ̀ si Mofẹ́. Mofẹ́ dàgbà lati fẹ obinrin. Ó̀ yan obinrin ti à ńpè ni Àyànfẹ́ ni iyàwó àfẹ́sọ́nà. Nigbati ó mú Àyànfẹ́ lọ han àwọn òbi rẹ, Bàbá Mofẹ́ gba Àyànfẹ́ tọwọ́-tẹsẹ̀, ṣùgbọ́n iyá Mofẹ́ fi àáké kọ́ri pé ọmọ ohun kò ni fẹ́ Àyànfẹ́. Wọn bẹ̀rẹ̀ idi ti kò ṣe fẹ́ ki ọmọ ohun fẹ ẹni ti ó múwá, Tinumi kò ri àlàyé ṣe ju pé ohun kò fẹ́ ki ọmọ ohun fẹ́ “Àtọ̀hún rin wa – ọmọ ti kò ni iran”. Ọmọ rẹ naa fi àáké kòri pé ẹni ti ohun ma fẹ ni Àyànfẹ́.

Tinumi sọ àfẹ́sọ́nà ọmọ rẹ di orogún, gbogbo ibi ti ó bá ti pàdé Àyànfẹ ni ibi àjoṣe ẹbi ni ó ti ḿbajà pé ki ó dẹ̀hin lẹhin ọmọ ohun. Àyànfẹ́ lé ọmọ rẹ titi ṣùgbọ́n ó kọ̀ lati dẹhin.

Lẹhin ọdún marun ti Mofẹ́ àti Àyànfẹ́ ti ńṣe ọ̀rẹ́, iwé jade pé wọn gbé Bàbá Mofẹ́. Gẹgẹ bi Aṣojú-Ọba lọ si Òkè-òkun. Bàbá ṣètò bi ọmọ àti iyàwó ti ma tẹ̀lé ohun. Ọmọ kọ̀ pé ohun kò lọ pẹ̀lú òbi ohun ti àfẹ́sọ́nà ohun kò bá ni tẹ̀lé àwọn lọ. Bàbá gbà pé ọmọ ohun ti tó fẹ́ iyàwó, wọn ṣe ètò igbéyàwó fún Mofẹ́ àti àfẹ́sọ́nà̀ rẹ. Lẹhin ti Mofẹ́ àti Àyànfẹ́ ṣe iyàwó tán, wọn tẹ̀lé Bàbá àti Ìyá wọn lọ si Òkè-okun lati má jọ gbé.

Àrùn ara Tinumi, aya Aṣojú-ọba bẹ̀rẹ̀ si han nitori ó sọ iyàwó ọmọ rẹ di orogún. Nigbati ọkọ rẹ ri àlébù yi, ó pinu lati wa orogún fun Tinumi nitori ai ni orogún ni ó ṣe sọ aya ọmọ rẹ di orogún. Gẹgẹ bi a ti mọ, igbéyàwó ibilẹ̀ kò ni ki ọkùnrin ma fẹ iyàwó keji. Nigbati Bàbá Mofẹ́ fẹ́ iyàwó kékeré, ọmọ àti iyàwó kó kúrò lọ si ilé tiwọn, inú rẹ bàjẹ́ nigbati o kũ pẹ̀lú orogún rẹ. Ó jẹ èrè iwà burúkú àti ìgbéraga.

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Originally posted 2014-06-20 13:30:24. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe ni Òkèrè – Àṣà ti ó mba Owó Ilú jẹ́”: “Destination Events – The Culture that is destroying the Local Currency”

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Yorùbá fẹ́ràn ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe púpọ̀ pàtàki fún igbéyàwó. Ni ayé àtijọ́, ìnáwó igbéyàwó kò tó bi ó ti dà ni ayé òde òni. Titi di bi ogoji ọdún sẹhin, ilé Bàbá Iyàwó tàbi ọgbà ẹbi ni wọn ti nṣe àpèjọ igbéyàwó. Ẹbi ọ̀tún àti ti òsi yio joko fún ètò igbéyàwó lati gba ẹbi ọkọ ni àlejò fún àdúrà gbi gbà fún àwọn ọmọ ti ó nṣe igbéyàwó àti lati gbà wọn ni ìyànjú bi ó ṣe yẹ ki wọn gbé pọ̀ ni irọ̀rùn. Ẹbi ọkọ yio kó ẹrù ti ẹbi iyàwó ma ngbà fún wọn, lẹhin eyi, ẹbi iyàwó yio pèsè oúnjẹ fún onilé àti àlejò. Onilù àdúgbò lè lùlù ki wọn jó, ṣùgbọ́n kò kan dandan ki wọn lu ilu tàbi ki wọn jó.

Nigbati ìnáwó rẹpẹtẹ fún igbeyawo bẹ̀rẹ̀, àwọn ẹlòmíràn bẹ̀rẹ̀ si jẹ igbèsè lati ṣe igbéyàwó pàtàki igbéyàwó ti Olóyìnbó ti a mọ si igbéyàwó-olórùka. Nitori àṣejù yi, olè bẹ̀rẹ̀ si jà ni ibi igbéyàwó, eyi jẹ́ ki wọn gbé àpèjẹ igbéyàwó àti àwọn ayẹyẹ yoku kúrò ni ilé. Wọn bẹ̀rẹ̀ si gbé àpèjẹ lọ si ọgbà ilé-iwé, ilé ìjọ́sìn tàbi ọgbà ilú àti ilé-ayẹyẹ.

: Igbéyàwó òkèrè ni Ilú Òyìnbó – Nigerian Wedding in London. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Igbéyàwó òkèrè ni Òkè-Òkun – Nigerian Wedding in Florida U.S.A. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Yorùbá fẹ́ràn ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe púpọ̀, ṣùgbọ́n àṣà tó gbòde ni ayé òde òni, ni igbéyàwó àti ayẹyẹ bi ọjọ́ ìbí ṣi ṣe ni òkèrè. Gẹgẹ bi àṣà Yorùbá, ibi ti ẹbi iyàwó bá ngbé ni ẹbi ọkọ yio lọ lati ṣe igbéyàwó. Ẹni ti kò ni ẹbi àti ará tàbi gbé ilú miran pàtàki Òkè-Òkun/Ilú Òyìnbó, yio lọ ṣe igbéyàwó ọmọ ni òkèrè. Wọn yio pe ẹbi àti ọ̀rẹ́ ti ó bá ni owó lati bá wọn lọ si irú igbéyàwó bẹ́ ẹ̀. Ẹbi ti kò bá ni owó, kò ni lè lọ nitori kò ni ri iwé irinna gbà. A ri irú igbéyàwó yi, ti ẹbi ọkọ tàbi ti iyàwó kò lè lọ. Eleyi wọ́pọ laarin àwọn Òṣèlú, Ọ̀gá Òṣìṣẹ́ Ìjọba àti àwọn ti ó ri owó ilú kó jẹ.

Igbéyàwó àti ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe ni òkèrè, jẹ́ ikan ninú àṣà ti ó mba owó ilú jẹ́. Lati kúrò ni ilú ẹni lọ ṣe iyàwó tàbi ayẹyẹ ni ilú miran, wọn ni lati ṣẹ́ Naira si owó ilu ibi ti wọn ti fẹ́ lọ ṣe ayẹyẹ, lẹhin ìnáwó iwé irinna àti ọkọ̀ òfúrufú. Ilú miran ni ó njẹ èrè ìnáwó bẹ́ ẹ̀, nitori bi wọn bá ṣe e ni ilé, èrò púpọ̀ ni yio jẹ èrè, pàtàki Alásè àti Onilù. A lérò wi pé ni àsìkò ọ̀wọ́n owó pàtàki owó òkèrè ni ilú lati ṣe nkan gidi, ifẹ́ iná àpà fún ayẹyẹ á din kù.

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Originally posted 2016-04-26 18:55:23. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Ẹrù fún Ìgbéyàwó Ìbílẹ̀” – “Traditional Bridal List”

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Apá Kini – Part One

Gifts at a modern Yoruba Traditional wedding — courtesy of @theYorubablog

Ìnáwó nla ni ìgbéyàwó ìbílẹ̀, ṣùgbọ́n gẹ́gẹ́ bi òwe Yorùbá “Bi owó ti mọ ni oògùn nmọ”, bi agbára ọkọ ìyàwó àti ìdílé bá ti tó ni ìnáwó ti tó.

Ẹrù ìgbéyàwó ayé òde òní ti yàtọ si ẹru ayé àtijọ́ nitori àwọn Yorùbá ti o wa ni àjò nibiti ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ẹrù yi kò ti wúlò, nitori èyi ni a ṣe kọ àwọn ẹrù ti a lè fi dipò pàtàki fún àwọn ti ó wà lájò.

ENGLISH TRANSLATION

Traditional Marriage is an expensive event, but according to Yoruba proverb “The amount of your money will determine the worth of your medicine”, meaning that the amount expended can be determined groom and bridegroom and their family’s wealth or purse.

The Bridal list of the modern time are slightly different because of the Yoruba abroad where most of the traditional items are not useful hence the suggestion of substitute.

ẸRÙ TI ÌYÀWÓ – BRIDAL PERSONAL LIST
YORÙBÁ	ENGLISH	ÌYÈ	QTY	DÍPÒ	SUBSTITUTE
Bíbélì/Koran	Bible/ Quoran	Ẹyọ Kan	1 pcs	Kò kan dandan	Not compulsory
Òrùka	Ring	Ẹyọ Kan	1 pcs	Ẹ̀gbà ọwọ́
Agboòrùn	Umbrella	Ẹyọ Kan	1 pcs
Bẹ̀mbẹ́	Tin Box	Ẹyọ Kan	1 pcs	Àpóti Ìrìn-nà	Travelling Box
Ohun Ẹ̀ṣọ́	Jewellery	Odidi Kan	1 Complete Set	Wúrà, Fàdákà tàbi Ìlẹ̀kẹ̀	Gold/Silver or Bead Jewelry
Aago ọwọ	Wrist Watch	Ẹyọ Kan	1 pcs
Aṣọ Ànkàrá	Cotton Print	Ìgàn mẹrin	4 bundle	Aṣọ òkèrè	Lace or Guinea Brocade
Àdìrẹ	Tie & Dye Cotton	Ìgàn mẹrin	4 bundle
Aṣọ Òfi/Òkè	Traditional woven fabric	Odidi kan	1 Complete Set	Kẹ̀kẹ́ ìgbọ́mọ sọ́kọ̀ tàbi ti ọmọ kiri	Car Sit or Buggy
Gèlè̀	Head Ties	Ẹyọ Mẹrin	4 pcs	A lè yọ gèlè lára aṣọ	Separate 1.6yds from fabric for Headtie
Bàtà àti Àpò	Shoe & Bag	Odidi Meji	2 sets	Mú àpò tó bá bàtà mu	Mix & Match bag & shoe
Sálúbàtà	Slippers/Sandal	Meji	2 pairs
Ọja Aṣọ òfì	Baby Wrap	ẸyọMẹrin	4 pcs	Àpò ìgbọ́mọ	1 Baby Start Carrier
Odó àti ọmọ ọdọ	Mortar and pestle	Odidi Kan	1 set	Ẹ̀rọ ìgúnyán	Pounding Machine
Ọlọ àti ọmọ ọlọ	grinding stones	Odidi Kan	1 set	Ẹ̀rọ Ilta	Blender
Ìkòkò ìdána	Cooking Pots & Pans	Mẹrin	4 pcs	Kò kan dandan	No longer necessary

Originally posted 2015-03-10 10:30:47. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Ìtàn iyàwó ti ó fi ẹ̀mi òkùnkùn pa iyá-ọkọ: Ẹni a fẹ́ la mọ̀, a ò mọ ẹni tó fẹni” – The story of how a daughter-in-law killed her mother-in-law in mysterious circumstance – We can only be sure of who we love, but not sure of who loves us”

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Ìtàn ti ó wọ́pọ̀ ni, bi iyá-ọkọ ti burú lai ri ìtàn iyá-ọkọ ti ó dára sọ. Eyi dákún àṣà burúkú ti ó gbòde láyé òde òni, nipa àwọn ọmọge ti ó ti tó wọ ilé-ọkọ tàbi obinrin àfẹ́sọ́nà ma a sọ pé àwọn ò fẹ́ ri iyá-ọkọ tàbi ki iyá-ọkọ ti kú ki àwọn tó délé.

Ni ayé àtijọ́, agbègbè kan na a ni ẹbi má ngbé – bàbá-àgbà, iyá-àgbà, bàbá, iyá, ẹ̀gbọ́n, àbúrò, iyàwó àgbà, iyàwó kékeré, ìyàwó-ọmọ, àwọn ọmọ àti ọmọ-mọ. Ṣùgbọ́n ni ayé òde òni, ọ̀pọ̀ kò fẹ́ ṣe iṣẹ́ àgbẹ̀ mọ, ẹbi ti fúnká si ilú nlá àti òkè-òkun nitori iṣẹ́ ajé àti iṣẹ́-ijọba.

Ni ọ̀pọ̀ ọdún sẹhin, iyá kan wà ti a o pe orúkọ rẹ ni Tanimọ̀la ninú ìtàn yi. Ó bi ọmọ ọkùnrin meje lai bi obinrin. Kékeré ni àwọn ọmọ rẹ wà nigbati ọkọ rẹ kú. Tanimọ̀la fi ìṣẹ́ àti ìyà tọ́ àwọn ọmọ rẹ, gbogbo àwọn ọkùnrin na a si yàn wọn yanjú. Nigbati wọn bẹ̀rẹ̀ si fẹ́ ìyàwó, inú rẹ dùn púpọ̀ pé Ọlọrun ti bẹ̀rẹ̀ si dá obinrin ti ohun kò bi padà fún ohun. Ó fẹ́ràn àwọn ìyàwó ọmọ rẹ gidigidi ṣùgbọ́n ọ̀pọ̀ ọmọ rẹ kó lọ si ilú miran pẹ̀lú ìyàwó wọn nitori iṣẹ́. Àbi-gbẹhin rẹ nikan ni kò kúrò ni ilé nitori ohun ló bójú tó oko àti ilé ti bàbá wọn fi silẹ. Nigbati ó fẹ ìyàwó wálé, inú iyá dùn pé ohun yio ri ẹni bá gbé. Ìyàwó yi lẹ́wà, o si ni ọ̀yàyà, eyi tún jẹ́ ki iyá-ọkọ rẹ fẹ́ràn si gidigidi.

Yorùbá ni “Ẹni a fẹ́ la mọ̀, a ò mọ ẹni tó fẹni”. Tanimọ̀la kò mọ̀ pé àjẹ́ ni ìyàwó-ọmọ ti ohun fẹ́ràn, ti wọn jọ ngbé yi. Bi Tanimọ̀la bá se oúnjẹ, ohun pẹ̀lú ọmọ àti ìyàwó-ọmọ rẹ ni wọn jọ njẹ ẹ. Bi ìyàwó bá se oúnjẹ, á bu ti iyá-ọkọ rẹ. Kò si ìjá tàbi asọ̀ laarin wọn ti ó lè jẹ ki iyá funra.

àsáró-iṣu – Yam Pottage. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Yorùbá gbà pé ohun burúkú ni ki enia jẹun lójú orun. Ni ọjọ́ kan, iyá ké lati ojú orun ni bi agogo mẹrin ìdájí òwúrọ̀, pe ìyàwó-ọmọ ohun ti fún ohun ni oúnjẹ jẹ ni ojú orun. Ìyàwó-ọmọ rẹ kò sẹ́, bẹni kò sọ nkan kan. Ọkọ rẹ kò gba iyá rẹ gbọ. Lati igbà ti iyá ti ké pé ohun jẹ àsáró-iṣu ti ìyàwó-ọmọ ohun gbé fún òhun jẹ lójú orun ni inú rirun ti bẹ̀rẹ̀ fún iyá. Inú rirun yi pọ̀ tó bẹ gẹ ẹ ti wọn fi gbé Tanimọ̀la kúrò ni ilé fún ìtọ́jú. Wọn gbiyànjú titi, kò rọrùn, nitori eyi, Tanimọ̀la ni ki wọn gbé ohun padà lọ si ilé ki ohun lọ kú. Continue reading →

Originally posted 2014-11-07 17:41:39. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Owó orí ìyàwó – “Bíbí ire kò ṣe fi owó ra”: Bride Price – “Good pedigree cannot be bought with money”

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OWO NAIRA

Bi ọkọ ìyàwó bà ti lówó tó ni ó ti lè fi owó si inú àpò ìwé fún owó orí àti àwọn owó ẹbi yókù. Ni ayé òde òní, owó fún àpò ìwé méjìlá wọnyi lè bẹ̀rẹ̀ lati Aadọta Naira, ẹbí dẹ̀ lè din àpò ìwé kù lai ṣi àpò ìwé tàbi ka owó inú rẹ̀.

Òwe Yorùbá ni “Bíbí ire kò ṣe fi owó rà”. Ìyàwó ìbílẹ̀ ki ṣe iṣẹ́ ọkọ-ìyàwó nikan, bi ẹbí ìyàwó bá wo àwọn ènìà pàtàkì lẹhin ọkọ, inú wọn a dùn ju owó lọ, nitori wọn a mọ̀ wípé ilé tó dára ni ọmọ wọn nlọ. Ọpọlọpọ ẹbí ki gba owó orí mọ, wọn a fún ẹbí ọkọ padà ni àpò ìwé owó orí pẹ̀lú ìkìlọ̀ wípé “ọmọ wọn ki ṣe tita, ṣùgbọ́n ki ọkọ àti ẹbi rẹ tọju ọmọ wọn”. Ẹ ṣe àyẹ̀wò àwọn ohun ti àpò ìwé owó wọnyi wà fún ni ojú ìwé yi.

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The amount in the envelopes for bride price and other family envelopes are often depend on the purse of the groom. In this modern time, the amount in each of the twelve (12) envelopes can start from Fifty (50) Naira. The bride’s family can also use discretion to reduce the number of envelopes or not count the amount in the envelopes to assist the Groom.

According to Yoruba proverb, “Good pedigree cannot be bought with money”. Traditional marriage ceremony is not the responsibility of the groom alone, if the bride’s family observe that the groom has good family support, he will be more honoured than preference for money. Many families are no longer collecting “Bride Price”, hence the symbolic envelopes containing the “Bride Price” is returned with a caution that “their daughter is not for sale, but the groom and his family should take good care”. Look through the list of envelopes and the purpose for which the envelope is used.

ÀPÒ OWÓ ÌYÀWÓ – BRIDAL MONEY ENVELOPES
Yorùbá	English	Iye Owó	Amount Naira	Iye ti agbára ká	Flexible Amount
Owó Ìkanlẹ̀kùn	Knocking on the door money	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Irinna	Transportation money	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Iwọlé	Entry money	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ìyá gbọ́	Money for mother-in-law’s information	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Bàbá gbọ́	Money for father-in-law’s information	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ìyàwó Ilé	Money for the Bridal family wives	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ọmọkunrin Ilé	Money for Bridal family male youths	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ọmọbririn Ilé	Money for Bridal family female youths	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ijoko Àgbà	Money for the Bridal family elders’ sitting	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ìṣígbá	Money for opening the Bridal Bride Price Dish	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ìṣíjú Ìyàwó	Money for opening the Bridal Bridal veil cover	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Orí	Bride Price	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	Ẹbí ìyàwó a ma dapadà	It is often returned

Originally posted 2015-03-13 10:15:11. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Ìgbéyàwó Ìbílẹ́ Yorùbá: “Ọ̀gá Méji Kò Lè Gbé inú Ọkọ̀” – Yoruba Traditional Marriage Ceremony: “Two Masters cannot steer a ship”

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Adarí Ètò Ijoko àti “Adarí Ètò Ìdúró – Traditional Master of Ceremony. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

A ṣe àkíyèsí pé wọn ti sọ iṣẹ́ ìyàwó-ilé di òwò nibi ìgbéyàwó ìbíl̀̀̀̀̀̀ẹ̀, pàtàki ni àwọn ilú nlá, nítorí èyí “ó ju alaga méjì tó ngbe inú ọkọ̀ bẹ ẹ. Wọn pè ìkan ni “Alaga Ìdúró” wọn pe ìkejì ni “Alaga Ijoko”. Gẹgẹbi àṣà ilẹ Yorùbá, kòsí bí “Ìyàwó ilé ti lè jẹ “Alaga” lórí ẹbí ọkọ tàbí ẹbí ìyàwó ti a ngbe. Ọkunrin ti o ti ṣe ìyàwó ti o yọri fún ọpọlọpọ ọdún, ti o si gbayí láwùjọ, yálà ni ìdílé ìyàwó tàbí ìdílé ọkọ ni a nfi si ipò “ALAGA” tàbí “OLÓRÍ ÀPÈJỌ.

Ìyàwó àgbà ni ìdílé ọkọ àti ti ìyàwó ni o ma nṣe aṣájú fún áwọn ìyàwó ilé yoku lati gbé tàbí gba igbá ìyàwó ni ibi ìgbéyàwó ìbílẹ. Ni ayé òde oni, a ṣe àkíyèsí wipé, ìdílé ìyàwó àti ọkọ, a san owó rẹpẹtẹ lati gba àwọn ti o yẹ ki a pè ni “Adarí Ètò Ijoko” fún ẹbi Ìyàwó àti “Adarí Ètò Ìdúró” fún ẹbi Ọkọ-ìyàwó”. Lẹhin ti àwọn obìnrin àjòjì yi ti gba owó iṣẹ́, wọn a sọ ara wọn di “Ọ̀GÁ”, wọn a ma pàṣe, wọn a ma ṣe bí ó ti wù wọn lati tún rí owó gbà lọ́wọ́ àwọn ẹbí mejeeji. Nípa ìwà yí, wọn a ma fi àkókò ṣòfò. Yorùbá ni “Alágbàtà tó nsọ ọjà di ọ̀wọ́n”.

“Ṣe bí wọn ti nṣe, ki o ba le ri bi o ṣe nri”, o yẹ ki á ti ọẃọ àṣàkasà yi bọlẹ̀. Ko ba àṣà mu lati sọ “Aṣojú awọn ìyàwó-Ilé” di “ALAGA”. Ipò méjèjì yàtọ sira, ó dẹ yẹ ki o dúró bẹ ẹ nítorí ọ̀gá méjì kò lè gbé inú ọkọ̀ kan.

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It can easily be observed that Traditional marriages have turned largely commercial in nature and as a result of this there are more than two captains in such a ship. One is called “SEATING IN CHAIRMAN” while the second is called “STANDING IN CHAIRMAN”. In Yoruba culture, “a Housewife” cannot be made the CHAIRMAN over her husband’s family in either the Bride or the Groom’s Family. The Chairman in the Traditional Marriage is often an honourable man with many years of married life, carefully chosen from either the Bride or Groom’s family. Continue reading →

Originally posted 2015-02-24 23:25:22. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Àpọ́nlé kò si fún Ọba ti kò ni Olorì” – “There is no respect for a King that has no Queen”

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Ọ̀rọ̀ Yorùbá ni “Bi ọmọdé bá tó ni ọkọ́, à fún lọ́kọ́”. Ọkọ́ jẹ irinṣẹ́ pàtàki fún Àgbẹ̀. Iṣẹ́-àgbẹ̀ ni ó wọ́pọ̀ ni ayé àtijọ́. Nitori eyi, bi bàbá ti nkọ́ ọmọ rẹ ọkùnrin ni iṣẹ-àgbẹ̀, ni ìyá nkọ́ ọmọ obinrin rẹ ni ìtọ́jú-ile lati kọ fún ilé-ọkọ. Iṣẹ́ la fi nmọ ọmọ ọkùnrin, nitori eyi, bi ọkùnrin bá dàgbà, bàbá rẹ á fun ni ọkọ́ nitori ki ó lè dá dúró lati lè ṣe iṣẹ́ ti yio fi bọ́ ẹbi rẹ ni ọjọ́ iwájú.

Bi ọkùnrin bá ni iṣẹ́, ó ku kó gbéyàwó ti yio jẹ “Olorì” ni ilé rẹ. Ìyàwó fi fẹ́ bu iyi kún ọkùnrin, nitori, ó fi hàn pé ó ni igbẹ́kẹ̀lé. Àṣà Yorùbá gbà fún ọkùnrin lati fẹ́ iye ìyàwó ti agbára rẹ bá gbé lati tọ́jú. Nitori eyi, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ Ọba, Baálẹ̀, Ìjòyè àti àwọn enia pàtàki láwùjọ ma nfẹ ìyàwó púpọ̀. Ìṣòro ni ki wọn fi ọkùnrin ti kò ni ìyàwó jẹ Ọba. Kò wọ́pọ̀ ki Ọba ni ìyàwó kan ṣoṣo.

Ìwúyè Ọba Àkúrẹ́, Olóògbé Ọba Adebiyi Adeṣida – Coronation of the Late Deji of Akure.

Ohun ti a ṣe akiyesi ni ayé òde òni, ni Ọba ti ó fẹ ìyàwó kan ṣoṣo nitori ẹ̀sìn, pàtàki ẹ̀sìn Ìgbàgbọ́, ṣùgbọ́n ti ó ni àlè rẹpẹtẹ. Ọba ayé òde òni ndá nikan lọ si òde lai mú Olorì dáni. Gẹgẹbi ọ̀rọ̀ Yorùbá, “Àpọ́nlé kò si fún Ọba ti kò ni Olorì”, nitori eyi, kò bu iyi kún Ọba, ki ó lọ àwùjó tàbi rin irin àjò pàtàki lai mú Olorì dáni. Ohun ti ó yẹ Ọba ni ki a ri Ọba àti Olorì rẹ ni ẹ̀gbẹ́ rẹ.

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Originally posted 2014-11-11 19:13:42. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“A ki mọ́ ọkọ ọmọ, ki a tún mọ àlè rẹ” – “One does not acknowledge one’s child husband and also acknowledge her illicit affair”

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Igbéyàwó ibilẹ̀ – Traditional marriage

Ni ayé àtijọ́, wọn ma ńfi obinrin fún ọkọ ni, ṣùgbọ́n ni ayé òde òni, obinrin á mú̀ àfẹ́sọ́nà lati fi hàn òbi, nitori Yorùbá gba ọmọ obinrin ni àyè lati lọ si ilé-iwé, tàbi kọ́ iṣẹ́-ọwọ́, àti lati ṣe òwò. Èyi jẹ ki obinrin kúrò lọ́dọ̀ obi wọn. Bi obinrin bá ti dàgbà tó bi ọdún meji-din-logun, ti ó tó wọ ilé-ọkọ, àwọn òbi yio ma ran léti pé, ó ti tó mú ọkọ wálé.

Ẹni ti obinrin mọ̀ pé òhun kò lè fẹ́, bi àfojúdi ni lati fi irú ọkùnrin bẹ̃ han òbi. Bi obinrin ti ó ti dàgbà tó lati wọ ilé ọkọ bá mú àfẹ́sọ́nà wá han òbi, wọn yio fi òwe Yorùbá ti ó ni “A ki mọ́ ọkọ ọmọ, ki a tún mọ àlè rẹ” ṣe iwadi pé, ṣe ó da lójú pé òhun yio fẹ ọkùnrin ti ó mú wá? Òwe yi tún wúlò lati fi ṣe ikilọ nigbà igbéyàwó ibilẹ̀ fún obinrin pé kò lè mú ọkùnrin miràn wá lẹhin igbéyàwó.

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Originally posted 2014-07-08 23:02:45. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Àdúrà ló ńgbà, agbára ki gbà” – ohun èlò fún àdúrà ìbílẹ̀: “It is prayer that is answered, power is never answered” – Items used for traditional prayer.

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Lati ọjọ́ ti aláyé ti dá ayé ni Yorùbá ti ni ìgbàgbọ́ ninu ki a gba àdúrà nitori pe ohun gbogbo fẹ́ àdúrà “Ohun ti o dára fẹ́ àdúrà ki ó bà lé dára si, eyi ti kò dára na fẹ́ àdúrà ki ó bà lé yanjú”. Bi àwọn “Ìgbàgbọ́ tàbi ilé-àdúrà aláṣọ funfun” ti ńlo “Àbẹ́là” gba àdúrà a ni Yorùbá ma ńlo àwọn ohun ọ̀gbin bi: Orógbó, Obì, Atare àti Oyin nibi ètò ìgbéyàwó, ìsọmọ lórúkọ, ìṣílé, àjọ̀dún àti bẹ̃bẹ lọ. Ẹ jẹ ki a ṣe akiyesi bi Yorùbá ti ńlo wọn fún àdúrà:

Orógbó: Bitter-kola

Orógbó: Bitter-kola. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Ọpọlọpọ ìgbà ni a ki mọ ẹni ti o gbin igi orógbó nitori igi rẹ lè pé igba ọdún, nitori eyi, Yorùbá ma ńlo lati gbàdúrà nibi ṣiṣe fún ẹmi gigun pe “wa gbó wa tọ́”.

Obì: Kola-nut

Obì: Kola-nut. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Obì wulo fún ọrọ ajé. Yorùbá ni “ọdọdún la nri orógbó, ọdọdún la nri obì lori atẹ” nitori eyi wọn a lo fún àdúrà pe “obì a bi iku, àti pé ẹni na a ṣe àmọ́dún”.

Atare: Guinea/Maleguetta/Alligator pepper

Atare: Guinea/Maleguetta/Alligator pepper. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Ọmọ/èso pọ ninu atare, nitori eyi wọn a fi gba àdúrà, pataki fún ẹni ti o nṣe ìgbéyàwó pe “ilé wọn á kún fún ọmọ” tàbi nibi ìsọmọ lórúkọ pe “bi wọn ṣe bi ọmọ na, ilé tirẹ̀ na á kún fún ọmọ”.

Oyin: Honey

Oyin – Honey. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Òwe Yorùbá ni “Dídùn là ḿbá láfárá oyin”, nitori eyi wọn a lo oyin lati gba àdúrà nibi ìgbéyàwó, ìsọmọ lórúkọ àti ṣiṣe yoku pe ayé ẹni ti o nṣe nkan á dùn bi oyin.

ENGLISH TRANSLATION

Since creation, Yoruba people had always believed in praying because all things require prayer “What is good require prayer for sustenance, what is bad requires prayer for solution”. As the “Christians or the white garment Churches” use “Candles” for praying, so do Yoruba people use agricultural produce such as: Bitter-kola, Kola-nut, Alligator pepper and Honey to pray during traditional marriage, naming ceremony, house warming, anniversaries etc. Let us note some ways Yoruba people use these items for prayer:

Most often the planter of bitter-kola tree is unknown because the tree can live for two hundred years, hence Yoruba used this to pray during ceremony for long live “the celebrant will long and old”.

Kola-nut is useful as cash crop. Yoruba adage said “Bitter-kola is found yearly, kola-nut is found annually on market display”, as a result of this adage it is believed and reflected in the prayer that said “kola-nut will push away death and the person will live to see another year”.

Alligator pepper often carry many seeds, hence it used during prayer, particularly during traditional marriage that “the couple’s home will be full of children” or during naming ceremony that “as the baby was born so also his/her house will be full children”.

Yoruba Proverb as translated by Oyekan Owomoyela “One finds only sweetness in a honey comb”. This can be applied to the prayer that “The celebrant’s affairs will always be characterized by pleasantness”.

Originally posted 2013-12-13 21:05:33. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Ẹ Kú Ọwọ́ Lómi Là Nki Ọlọ́mọ Tuntun – Ìtọ́jú Ọmọ Tuntun ni Àtijọ́”: “Greetings to the Nursing Mothers whose hands are always wet – Yoruba Culture of Nursing a Baby in the Old Days”

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Ni ayé àtijọ́, kò si itẹdi à lò sọnù bi ti ayé òde òni. Bẹni wọn kò lo ìgò oúnjẹ lati fún ọmọ tuntun ni oúnjẹ.

Ri rọ ọmọ – Yoruba Traditional baby feeding. Courtesy:@theyorubablog

Ọwọ́ ọlọ́mọ tuntun ki kúrò ni omi nitori omi ni wọn fi nto àgbo ti wọn nrọ ọmọ fún ìtọ́jú ọmọ tuntun. Aṣọ àlòkù Bàbá, Ìyá àti ẹbi ni wọn nya si wẹ́wẹ́ lati ṣe itẹdi ọmọ nitori kò si itẹdi à lò sọnú bi ti ayé òde òni.

Ọmọ tuntun a ma ya ìgbẹ́ àti ìtọ̀ tó igbà mẹwa tàbi jù bẹ́ ẹ̀ lọ ni ojúmọ́. Ọmọ ki i sùn ni ọ̀tọ̀, ẹ̀gbẹ́ ìyá ọmọ ni wọn ntẹ́ ọmọ si. Lẹhin ọsẹ̀ mẹ́fà tàbi ogoji ọjọ́ tàbi ó lé kan ti wọn ti bi ọmọ, ìyá àti ọmọ lè lọ òde, ìyá á pọn ọmọ lati jáde.

Nitori aṣọ ni itẹdi kò gba omi dúró, bi ọmọ bá tọ̀ tàbi ya ìgbẹ́, á yi aṣọ ìyá tàbi ẹni ti ó gbé ọmọ. Kò si ẹ̀rọ ifọṣọ igbàlódé nitori na a, ó di dandan ki wọ́n fọ aṣọ ọmọ àti ẹni ti ó gbé ọmọ ni igbà gbogbo ni ilé ọlọ́mọ tuntun. Eyi ni ó jẹ́ ki Yorùbá ma ki ẹni ti ó bá ntọ ọmọ lọ́wọ́ pé “Ẹ kú ọwọ lómi” nitori ọwọ́ ki kúrò ni omi aṣọ fí fọ̀.

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In the old days, there were no disposable diaper as common as it has become in recent times. Also, babies were not bottle fed. Continue reading →

Originally posted 2016-03-04 23:03:05. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Category Archives: Yoruba Traditional Marriage

“Obinrin ti kò ni orogún, kò ti mọ àrùn ara rẹ̀”: A woman who has no co-wife cannot yet identify her disease

“Ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe ni Òkèrè – Àṣà ti ó mba Owó Ilú jẹ́”: “Destination Events – The Culture that is destroying the Local Currency”

“Ẹrù fún Ìgbéyàwó Ìbílẹ̀” – “Traditional Bridal List”

Ìtàn iyàwó ti ó fi ẹ̀mi òkùnkùn pa iyá-ọkọ: Ẹni a fẹ́ la mọ̀, a ò mọ ẹni tó fẹni” – The story of how a daughter-in-law killed her mother-in-law in mysterious circumstance – We can only be sure of who we love, but not sure of who loves us”

Owó orí ìyàwó – “Bíbí ire kò ṣe fi owó ra”: Bride Price – “Good pedigree cannot be bought with money”

Ìgbéyàwó Ìbílẹ́ Yorùbá: “Ọ̀gá Méji Kò Lè Gbé inú Ọkọ̀” – Yoruba Traditional Marriage Ceremony: “Two Masters cannot steer a ship”

“Àpọ́nlé kò si fún Ọba ti kò ni Olorì” – “There is no respect for a King that has no Queen”

“A ki mọ́ ọkọ ọmọ, ki a tún mọ àlè rẹ” – “One does not acknowledge one’s child husband and also acknowledge her illicit affair”

“Àdúrà ló ńgbà, agbára ki gbà” – ohun èlò fún àdúrà ìbílẹ̀: “It is prayer that is answered, power is never answered” – Items used for traditional prayer.

“Ẹ Kú Ọwọ́ Lómi Là Nki Ọlọ́mọ Tuntun – Ìtọ́jú Ọmọ Tuntun ni Àtijọ́”: “Greetings to the Nursing Mothers whose hands are always wet – Yoruba Culture of Nursing a Baby in the Old Days”

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