Category Archives: Yoruba Traditional Marriage

Ìfẹ́ kò fọ́jú, ẹni ti ó wọnú ìfẹ́ ló fọ́jú: ‘Igbéyàwó ki ṣe ọjà òkùnkùn’ – Love is not blind, it is the person falling in love that is blind”: Marriage is not ‘Black Market’

Ni ayé àtijọ́, ki òbí tó gbà lati fi ọmọ fún ọkọ, wọn yio ṣe iwadi irú iwà àti àìsàn ti ó wọ́pọ̀ ni irú idile bẹ́ ẹ̀. Nitori eyi, igbéyàwó ibilẹ̀ ayé àtijọ́ ma npẹ́ ju ti ayé òde òni. Bi ọmọ obinrin bá nlọ si ilé ọkọ, ikan ninu ẹrù tó ṣe pàtàki ni ki wọn gbé “ẹni” fún dáni lati fi han pé kò si àyè fun ni ilé òbi rẹ mọ nitori ó ti di ara kan pẹ̀lú ẹbi ọkọ rẹ.

Ọkùnrin fi ìfẹ́ han obinrin – Couple in love

Ni idà keji, obinrin ayé òde òni, kò dúró ki òbí ṣe iwadi rara, pàtàki bi wọn bá pàdé ni ilú nla ti èrò lati oriṣiriṣi ẹ̀yà pọ̀ si tàbi ni ilé-iwé. Ọkùnrin ri obinrin, wọn fi ìfẹ́ han si ara wọn, ó pari, ọ̀pọ̀ ki ṣe iwadi lati wo ohun ti àgbà tàbi òbí nwò ki wọn tó ṣe igbéyàwó. Obinrin ti lè lóyún ki òbí tó gbọ́ tàbi ki wọn tó lọ si ilé Ìjọ́sìn lati ṣe ètò igbéyàwó. Àwọn miran nkánjú, wọn kò lè dúró gba imọ̀ràn. Irú imọ̀ràn wo ni òbí tàbi Alufa fẹ́ fún ọkùnrin àti obinrin bẹ́ ẹ̀?

Ki ṣe “ìfẹ́ ló fọ́jú”, ṣùgbọ́n “àwọn ti ó wọnú ìfẹ́ ló fọ́jú” nitori, bi obinrin tàbi ọkùnrin miran bá ti ri owó, ẹwà, ipò agbára, wọn á dijú si àlébù miran ti ó wà lára ẹni ti wọn fẹ́ fẹ́. Igbéyàwó ki ṣe ọjà̀ òkùnkùn, ṣùgbọ́n àwọn ti ó nwọ̀ ọ́ ni ó dijú, nitori nigbati àlébù ti wọn dijú si bá bẹ̀rẹ̀ si jade lẹhin igbéyàwó, igbéyàwó á túká.

Ìmọ̀ràn fún ọkùnrin àti obinrin ti ó nronú lati ṣe igbéyàwó ni ki wọn lajú, ki wọn si farabalẹ̀ ṣe iwadi irú iwa ti wọn lè gbà lati fi bára gbé lai wo ohun ayé bi ẹwà, owó àti ipò nitori ìwà ló ṣe kókó jù fún igbéyàwó ti yio di alẹ́.

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Originally posted 2015-01-06 09:00:19. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Èèmọ̀ ni ki ọkùnrin fẹ́ ọkùnrin tàbi ki obinrin fẹ́ obinrin ni Àṣà Yorùbá ” – “Same Sex Marriage is a strage occurrence to Yoruba Traditional Marriage”

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Ilé Ẹjọ́ Àgbà yi Àṣà Ìgbéyàwó Àdáyébá padà ni ilú Àmẹ́ríka. Ni ọjọ́ Ẹti, Oṣù kẹfà, ọjọ́ Kẹrindinlọ́gbọ́n, ọdún Ẹgbãlemẹdógún, Ilé Ẹjọ́ Àgbà ti ilú Àmẹ́ríkà ṣe òfin pé “Kò si Ìpínlẹ̀ Àmẹ́ríkà ti ó ni ẹ̀tọ́ lati kọ igbéyàwó laarin ọkùnrin pẹ̀lú ọkùnrin tàbi obinrin pẹ̀lú obinrin”. Ijà fún ẹ̀tọ́ lati ṣe irú igbeyawo yi ti wà lati bi ọdún mẹrindinlãdọta sẹhin, ṣùgbọ́n ni oṣù kẹfà, ọdún Ẹgbãlemẹ́tàlá, Ilé Ẹjọ́ Àgbà fi àṣẹ si pé ki Ìjọba Àpapọ̀ gba àṣà ki ọkùnrin fẹ́ ọkùnrin tàbi ki obinrin fẹ́ obinrin, lati jẹ ki àwọn ti ó bá ṣe irú igbéyàwó yi lè gba ẹ̀tọ́ ti ó tọ́ si igbéyàwó àdáyébá – ohun ti ó tọ́ si ọkùnrin ti o fẹ́ obinrin, nipa ogún pinpin, owó ori tàbi bi igbéyàwó ba túká.

Julia Tate, left, kisses her wife, Lisa McMillin, in Nashville, Tennessee, after the reading the results of the <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2013/06/26/politics/scotus-same-sex-main/index.html">Supreme Court rulings on same-sex marriage</a> on Wednesday, June 26. The high court struck down key parts of the <a href="http://www.cnn.com/interactive/2013/06/politics/scotus-ruling-windsor/index.html">Defense of Marriage Act</a> and cleared the way for same-sex marriages to resume in California by rejecting an appeal on the state's <a href="http://www.cnn.com/interactive/2013/06/politics/scotus-ruling-perry/index.html">Proposition 8</a>.

Obinrin fẹ́ obinrin – Lesbian Relationship reactions to the Supreme Court Ruling

Ìjọba-àpapọ̀ ti ilú Àmẹ́ríkà gba òfin yi wọlé nitori “Òfin-Òṣèlú ni wọn fi ndari ilú Àmẹ́ríkà”. Lati igbà ti ìròyìn ìdájọ́ yi ti jade, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ni àgbáyé, pàtàki àwọn Ẹlẹ́sin Igbàgbọ́ ti nda ẹ̀bi fún Ìjọba Àmẹ́ríkà pé wọn rú òfin Ọlọrun nipa Igbéyàwó.

Ni àṣà igbéyàwó Yorùbá, èèmọ̀ ni ki ọkùnrin fẹ́ ọkùnrin tàbi ki obinrin fẹ́ obinrin. Ki ẹbi ma ba parẹ́, ọmọ bibi jẹ ikan ninú ohun pàtàki ni igbéyàwó. Bi ọkùnrin bá fẹ́ ọkùnrin, wọn ò lè bi ọmọ lai si pé wọn gba ọmọ tọ́ tàbi ki wọn wa obinrin ti yio bá wọn bi ọmọ tàbi bi ó bá jẹ laarin obinrin meji ti ó fẹ́ ara, ikan ninú obinrin yi ti lè bimọ tẹ́lẹ̀ tàbi ki ó wá ọkùnrin ti yio fún ohun lóyún ki wọn lè ni ọmọ ni irú igbéyàwó yi.

Yorùbá ni “Bi a ti nṣe ni ilé wa, èèwọ̀ ibòmíràn” òfin Àmẹ́ríkà yi jẹ́ èèmọ̀ ni ilẹ̀ Yorùbá nitori a kò gbọ tàbi ka a ninú itàn àṣà Yoruba . Ki ṣe gbogbo èèmọ̀ ni ó dára, fún àpẹrẹ, ni igbà kan ri èèmọ̀ ni ki èniyàn bi àfin, tàbi bi ibeji nitori eyi, wọn ma npa ikan ninú àwọn meji yi ni tàbi ki wọn jù wọn si igbó lati kú, ṣùgbọ́n láyé òde òni àṣà ji ju ibeji tàbi ibẹta si igbó ti dúró. Kò yẹ ki ẹnikẹni pa ẹnikeji nitori àwọ̀ ara tàbi nitori ẹni ti èniyàn bá ni ìfẹ́ si. Ni ilú Àmẹ́ríkà ni àwọn ti ó fi ẹsin Ìgbàgbọ́ bojú ti kó si abẹ́ àwọn Aṣòfin ilú Àmẹ́ríkà ni ayé àtijọ́ pé Aláwọ̀dúdú ki ṣe èniyàn, nitori eyi, ó lòdi si òfin ki Aláwọ̀dúdú fẹ́ Aláwọ̀funfun, bi wọn bá fẹ́ra, wọn kò kà wọn kún tàbi ka irú ọmọ bẹ ẹ si èniyàn gidi. Bẹni wọn lo òfin burúkú yi naa lati pa Aláwọ̀dúdú lẹhin isin ni aarin igboro lai ya Aláwọ̀dúdú ti wọn kó lẹ́rú lati ilẹ Yorùbá sọtọ. Ogun abẹ́lé àti ṣi ṣe Òfin Àpapọ̀ tuntun lẹhin ogun, ni wọn fi gba àwọn Aláwọ̀dúdú silẹ̀ ni ilú Àmẹ́ríkà.

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Originally posted 2015-07-21 19:46:00. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Àpẹrẹ Ẹrú ati Owó Àna fún Ìtọrọ Iyàwó ni Idilé Arinmájàgbẹ̀” – “Sample of List for Traditional Marriage Items and Bride Price from Arinmajagbe Family”

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Gẹ́gẹ́ bi a ti kọ tẹ́lẹ̀, ẹrù àti owó àna yàtọ̀ lati idilé kan si ekeji, ṣùgbọ́n àwọn ohun àdúrà bára mu ni ilẹ̀ Yorùbá pàtàki Oyin, Obi, Ataare, Orógbó. Fún ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ẹbi Yorùbá, ogoji ni oye àwọn ẹrù bi Obi, Orógbó, Ataare, Ẹja-gbígbẹ àti Iṣu ti idile ma ngba. Olóri ẹbi lè din oye ẹrù ku lati din ìnáwó ọkọ iyàwó kù. Lẹhin igbéyàwó ibilẹ̀, wọn yio pin ẹrù yi (yàtọ̀ si ẹrù fún Iyàwó), si ọ̀nà meji lati kó apá kan àti apá keji fún Idilé Bàbá àti Ìyá Iyàwó. Ẹ ṣe àyẹ̀wò àpẹrẹ ẹrú ati owó àna fún Idilé Arinmájàgbẹ̀ ni Ìbòròpa-Àkókó, Ipinlẹ̀ Ondó ni ojú iwé yi.

Yorùbá /English Translation
Ẹrù Àdúrà Ìwọ̀n Traditional Prayer items/Quantity
Ataare Ogún Alligator Pepper 20
Obi Àbàtà Ogún Traditional Kolanut 20
Obi Gbànja Ogún Kolanut 20
Orógbó Ogún Bitter Kola 20
Ẹja gbigbẹ Abori Ẹyọ Meji Dry Fish 02
Oyin Ìgò Meji Honey 02 Bottles
Iyọ̀ ìrèké Páálí Meji Sugar 02 pkts

Apẹ̀rẹ̀ ti a pin àwọn èso oriṣiriṣi wọnyi si: Baskets of assorted fruits
Àgbọn Mẹjọ Cocoanut 08
Ọ̀gẹ̀dẹ̀-wẹ́wẹ́ Ẹ̀ya Meji Banana 02 Bunches
Òrombó/Ọsàn Méjìlá Oranges 12
Ọ̀pẹ̀-òyinbó Méjì Pineapple 02

Àwọn Oún ji jẹ: Food Items
Epo-pupa Garawa kan Palm Oil 01 Keg (25kg)
Iyọ̀ Àpò Kan Salt 01 Bag
Iṣu Ogóji Yam 40 Tubers
Abo Ewúrẹ́ kékeré Ẹyọ kan She Goat 01
Àkàrà òyinbó Páálí nla Meji Biscuits/Cookies 02 Cartons

Ohun Mimu/Ọti Òyinbó; Assorted Local and foreign Drinks
Ọti Àdúrà Ìgò Meji Local Gin 02 Bottles
Ọti Ṣẹ̀kẹ̀tẹ́ Garawa Meji Local Malt 02 Keg (25ltr)
Ẹmu-ọ̀pẹ Garawa Meji Palm Wine 02 Keg (25ltr)
Ọti Òyinbó Páálí nla Meji Gulder 02 Cartons
Ọti Òyinbó Páálí Meji Stout 02 Cartons
Omi aládùn Páálí Meji Mineral/Soft Drink 02 Cartons/Crate

Ẹrù Iyàwó Items for the Bride
Àpóti Aṣọ kan 01 Suitcase of Assorted Clothes
Bibeli kan 01 Bible
Agboòrùn kan 01 Umbrella

Àpò Owó Money: Envelopes for
Owó Ìyá-gbọ́ Bride’s Mother’s consent
Owó Bàbá gbọ́ Bride’s Father’s consent
Owó Ọmọ ilé Children
Owó Ìyàwó ilé Wives
Owó Ẹpọnsi Bride’s Elder Sisters

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Originally posted 2015-08-28 19:37:22. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Obinrin ki ṣe Ẹrú tabi Ẹrù ti wọn njẹ mọ́ Ogún – Àsikò tó lati Dáwọ́ Àṣà ṣì Ṣúpó Dúró” – “Women are not Slaves nor Property that can be inherited – “It is Time to Stop Bequeathing Widows to the Next-of-Kin.”

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Yorùba Dáwọ́ Àṣà ṣì Ṣúpó Dúró – Yoruba Stop Bequeathing Widows. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Ni ayé àtijọ́, àṣà ṣì ṣúpó wọ́pọ̀ ni Ilẹ̀ Yorùbá. Obinrin ti ọkọ rẹ̀ bá kú wọn yio fi jogún gẹ́gẹ́ bi iyàwó fún ọmọ ọkọ ọkùnrin tàbi ẹbi ọkọ ọkùnrin. Eleyi wọ́pọ̀, pàtàki ni idilé Ọba, Ìjòyè nla, Ọlọ́rọ̀ ni àwùjọ àti àgbàlagbà ti ó fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀. Bi Ọba bá wàjà, Ọba titun yio ṣu gbogbo iyàwó ti ó bá láàfin lópó.

Ni ayé ọ̀làjú ti òde òni, àṣà ṣì ṣúpó ti din kù púpọ̀, nitori ẹ̀sìn àti àwọn obinrin ti ó kàwé ti ó si ni iṣẹ́ lọ́wọ́ kò ni gbà ki wọn ṣú ohun lópó fún ẹbi ọkọ ti kò ni ìfẹ́ si. Ọkùnrin ni ẹbi ọkọ na a ti bẹ̀rẹ̀ si kọ àṣà ṣì ṣúpó silẹ̀ pàtàki àwọn ti ó bá kàwé, nitori ó ti lè ni iyàwó tàbi ki ó ni àfẹ́sọ́nà. Lai ti ẹ ni iyàwó, ọkùnrin ẹbi ọkọ lè ma ni ìfẹ́ si iyàwó ti ọkọ rẹ̀ kú. Àṣa ṣì ṣúpó kò wọ́pọ̀ mọ laarin àwọn ti ó jade, àwọn ti ó ngbé ilú nla àti Òkè-òkun tàbi àwọn ti ó kàwé, ṣùgbọ́n ó wọ́pọ̀ laarin àwọn ti kò jade kúrò ni Abúlé àti àwọn ti kò kàwé.

Idilé ti ifẹ bá wà laarin ẹbi, iyàwó pàápàá kò ni fẹ́ kúrò ni irú ẹbi bẹ́ ẹ̀ lati lọ fẹ́ ọkọ si idilé miran pàtàki nitori àwọn ọmọ tàbi ó dàgbà jù lati tun lọ fẹ ọkọ miran. Ọmọ ọkọ tàbi ẹbi ọkọ ọkùnrin lè fi àṣà yi kẹ́wọ́ lati fẹ opó ni tipátipá, omiran lè pa ọkọ lati lè jogún iyàwó. Bi iyàwó bá kú, wọn kò jẹ́ fi ọkọ rẹ jogún fún ẹbi iyàwó.

Àsikò tó lati dáwọ́ àṣà ṣì ṣúpó dúró nitori obinrin ki ṣe ẹrú tàbi ẹrù ti wọn njẹ mọ́ ogún.

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Originally posted 2015-09-18 19:53:23. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

ÌGBÉYÀWÓ ÌBÍLẸ̀ – TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE

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Gifts at a modern Yoruba Traditional wedding — courtesy of @theYorubablog

Ìgbéyàwó ìbíle ní Ilẹ̀ Yorùbá jẹ́ àsìkò ti ẹbí ọkọ àti ì̀yàwó ma nparapọ. Ìyàwó ṣíṣe ni ilẹ̀ Yorùbá kò pin sí ãrin ọkọ àti ìyàwó nikan, ohun ti ẹbí nparapọ ṣe pẹ̀lú ìdùnnú nípàtàkì lati gbà wọ́n níyànjú àti lati gba àdúrà fún wọn.

A lè ṣe gbogbo ètò ìgb́eyàwó ìbílẹ̀ ni ọjọ́ kan tàbí ọjọ́ púpọ̀ fún àpẹrẹ: mọ̀mí-nmọ̀ẹ lọjọkan ati idana lọ́jọ́ keji tàbi ọjọ miran. Ní ayé àtijọ́, nígbàtí Yorùbá ma nṣe ayẹyẹ níwọ̀ntúnwọ̀sín, ilé ẹbí tàbi ọgbà bàbá àti ìyá iyawo ni wọn ti nṣe ayẹyẹ ìgbéyàwó, ṣùgbọ́n láyé òde òní, àyè ọ̀tọ̀ bi ilé ìlú, pápá ìṣeré, ilé àlejò àti bẹ̃bẹ lọ ni wọ́n nlo. Àṣà gbígba àyè ọ̀tọ tógbòde bẹ̀rẹ̀ nítorí àwọn adigun jalè àti àwọn ènìyàn burúkú míràn ti o ma ndarapọ pẹ̀lú àwọn àlejò tí a pè sí ibi ìyàwó lati ṣe iṣẹ́ ibi. Owó púpọ ni ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ma nfi gba à̀yè ibi ṣíṣe ìyàwó.

Bí òbí ba ti lọ́lá tó ni wọn ma náwó tó, nitori ìdùnnú ni fún òbí pé a tọ́mọ, wọ́n gbẹ̀kọ́, wọn fẹ di òmìnira lati bẹ̀rẹ̀ ẹbí tíwọn, ṣùgbọ́n àṣejù ati àṣehàn ti wa wọ́pọ̀ jù. Nítorí ìnáwó ìgbéyàwó, ilé ayẹyẹ pọ̀ju ilé ìkàwé lọ láyé òde òní. Kí ṣe bi a ti náwó tó níbi ìgbéyàwó lo nmu àṣeyorí ba ọkọ àti ìyàwo, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ntuka láìpẹ́ lẹ́hin ariwo rẹpẹtẹ yi. Yorùbá ni “A ki fọlá jẹ iyọ̀”, nínú ìṣẹ layika ni ilẹ̀ Aláwọdúdú, ó yẹ ki a ṣe ayẹyẹ ìgbéyàwó níwọ̀ntúnwọ̀nsìn. Ẹ fojú sọ́nà fún ètò ìgbéyàwó ibilè.

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Originally posted 2013-04-12 21:00:05. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Ni Ayé òde òni, njẹ́ ó yẹ ki a pọ́n Àṣà fi fẹ́ Iyàwó púpọ̀ lé ni Igbéyàwó Ìbílẹ̀ Yorùbá?” – “In Modern times, should Polygamy be encouraged in Yoruba Traditional Marriage?”

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Ni igbà àtijọ́, oníyàwó kan kò wọ́pọ̀ nitori iṣẹ́ Àgbẹ̀. Àṣà fi fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀ ṣe kókó nitori bibi ọmọ púpọ̀ pàtàki ọmọ ọkùnrin fún irànlọ́wọ́ iṣẹ́-oko. Fi fẹ̀ iyàwó púpọ̀ kò pin si ilẹ̀ Yorùbá tàbi ilẹ̀ Aláwọ̀dúdú nikan, ó wọ́pọ̀ ni ilẹ̀ Aláwọ̀funfun ni ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ọdún sẹhin ṣùgbọ́n nitori òwò ẹrú àti ẹ̀sin igbàgbọ́ wọn bẹ̀rẹ̀ àṣà fi fẹ iyàwó kan. Lẹhin òwò ẹrú, li lo ẹ̀rọ igbàlódé fún iṣẹ́ oko jẹ ki Aláwọ̀funfun lè dúró pẹ̀lú àṣà fi fẹ́ iyàwó kan.

Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ọ̀dọ́ ayé òde òni ti kọ àṣà fi fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀ silẹ̀ nitori ẹ̀sìn, ìmọ̀ àti si sá fún rògbòdiyàn ti ó lọ pẹ̀lú iyàwó púpọ̀. Iṣẹ́ Alákọ̀wé kò ṣe fi jogún fún ọmọ nitori iwé-ẹ̀ri àti ipò ti èniyàn dé ni iṣẹ́ Akọ̀wé tàbi iṣẹ́ Ìjọba kò ṣe fi jogún fún ọmọ bi oko. Owó ti ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ Oniṣẹ́-oṣ̀u ngba kò tó lati bọ́ iyàwó kan ki owó oṣù míràn tó wọlé, bẹni kò tó gba ilé nla ti ó lè gba iyàwó púpọ̀ pàtàki ni ilú nla bi Èkó. Àṣà iyàwó púpọ̀ ṣi pọ̀, ni àwọn ilú kékeré tàbi Abúlé laarin àwọn àgbẹ̀ àti àwọn ti kò kàwé.

Yorùbá ni “Bàbá, bàbá gbogbo ayé”, bi iyàwó kò bá ni iṣẹ́ lati tọ́jú ọmọ wọn, ìṣẹ́ dé, nitori eyi, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ obinrin Yorùbá ma ntẹpá mọ́ṣẹ́ lati lè tọ́jú ọmọ wọn lai dúró de ọkọ. Ìyà àti ìṣẹ́ ni fún ọmọ púpọ̀ àti àwon iyàwó ọkùnrin ti kò ni iṣẹ́ tàbi eyi ti ó ni iṣẹ́ ti kò wúlò.

Ewu ti ó wà ni ilé oníyàwó púpọ̀ ju ire ibẹ̀ lọ. Yorùbá ni “Oníyàwó kan kò mọ ẹjọ́ oníyàwó púpọ̀ da a”. Lára ewu wọnyi ni, ki i si ifọ̀kànbalẹ̀ nitori ijà àti ariwo ti owú ji jẹ laarin àwọn iyàwó ma nfà pàtàki ni agbo ilé nlá tàbi ilé Ọlọ́rọ̀ àti Olóyè. Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ilé oníyàwó púpọ̀ ma nda ahoro lẹhin ikú Olóri ilé nitori kò si ẹni ti ó ni ìfẹ́ tọ si Bàbá oníyàwó púpọ̀.

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Originally posted 2015-07-24 22:19:43. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

ẸRÙ FÚN ÌDÍLÉ ÌYÀWÓ – LIST FOR BRIDE’S FAMILY – Apá Kẹta – Part Three

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Gifts at a modern Yoruba Traditional wedding — courtesy of @theYorubablog

Ìyàtọ̀ diẹ̀ ló wà lãrin awọn ẹru igbéyàwó ti a kọ́ si ojú iwé yi lati idile si idile. Fún àpẹre: idile miran fẹ odidi iti ọ̀gẹ̀dẹ̀, nigbati àwọn idile miran lè bẽre fún àpò gãri. Kò si àyè àti sin abo ewúrẹ́ fún awọn ti o ńgbé ìlú nla tàbi ìlú òyinbó́, nitorina a lè fi owó dipò fún ìyá àgbà ni abúlé ki wọn ra abo ewúrẹ́ lati sin fún ìyàwó. Awọn ẹlẹ́sìn ìgbàlódé lè sọ wipé awọn ò fẹ́ ki wọn fi ataare àti obì ṣe àdúrà fún ọkọ ati ìyàwó. A tún ṣe akiyesi wipé wọn ki tú àpóti ìyàwó mọ, nitori ni ayé àtijọ́, wọn yio ṣi àpóti ki gbogbo ẹbí ri awọn ohun ẹ̀ṣọ́ ti ọkọ ìyàwó ra fún ìyàwó rẹ, eyi bo àṣírí ìnáwó lori awọn ohun ẹṣọ. Ẹbi tún lè wo ṣe fún ọkọ ìyàwó lati gba idaji oye iṣu tàbi ẹrù lati bo ni àṣiri.

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There is just a little difference between the bridal list items and the family list from one family to the other. For example: some family would request for bunch of plantain, while the other would request for a bag of coarse cassava flour instead. There is no place to rear a she-goat for those living in the big city or living abroad, hence money can be given to bride’s grandmother or aunt to rear one in the village on her behalf. Also, those practising modern religion may not want alligator pepper and Cola-nut to pray for the bride and groom. It is also observed that, the practice of opening the bridal box to show off beautiful items bought by the groom in the presence of the family has been discontinued. The family can also be considerate to the groom by receiving half of the items on the list or less.

: Ìtí ọgẹdẹ – Bunches of Plantain. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Iṣu – Yam. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Ẹrù ìyàwó dídì – Wrapped bridal gifts. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Oriṣiriṣi Èso – Various Fruits. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

ẸRÙ FÚN ÌDÍLÉ ÌYÀWÓ – LIST FOR BRIDE’S FAMILY
YORÙBÁ	ENGLISH	IYE	Quantity	D́IPÒ	SUBSTITUTE
Iṣu	Yam	Mejilogoji	42	Ọ̀dùnkún	2 Bags of Potatoes
Obì	Kolanut	Mejilogoji	42	Èso àrọ́wọ́ tó	Available Fruits
Orógbó	Bitter Kola	Mejilogoji	42	Èso àrọ́wọ́ tó	Available Fruits
Atare	Alligator Pepper	Mọkanlelogun	21
Abọ́ Aadun	Fried Corn Paste	Abọ́ Kan	1 dish
Iyọ̀	Salt	Àpò Kan	I Bag
Epo Pupa	Palm Oil	Garawa Kan	1 Tin	Garawa Ò̀̀̀̀̀róró	1 Tin of Vegetable Oil
Oriṣiriṣi Èso	Assorted Fruits	Àpẹrẹ Meji	2 Baskets	Èso àrọ́wọ́ tó	Available Fruits
Oyin	Honey	Ìgo Meji	2 Bottles
Ìrèké	Sugar Cane	Igi Ìrèké Meji	2 sticks of Sugar Cane
Iyọ̀ Ìrèké oni horo	Sugar Cubes	Pálí Mẹwa Meji	2 Packets of 10
Abo Ewúrẹ́	She Goat	Ẹyọ Kan	1	Owó	Money
Ẹja gbigbẹ	Dry Fish	Mẹfa	6		Could be more
Ìrẹsi	Rice	Àpò Kan	1 Bag
Ìgò Ẹlẹsọ fún ọti	Decanter	Ìgò Meji
Ẹmu	Palm Wine	Agbè Meji		Ẹmu-òyinbó	Champagne
Oriṣiriṣi ọti oyinbo	Assorted Drinks – Alchoholic & Non Alchoholic	Páli Merin

Originally posted 2013-10-29 20:54:27. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Mọ̀ mí, nmọ̀ ẹ́, “Ẹni tó lọ si ilé àna, lọ sọ èdè oyinbo, ni yio túmọ̀ rẹ”: Introduction, “He who goes to speak grammar in the in-law’s place will interpret it”

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Ni ayé àtijọ́, òbi ni o nfẹ iyàwó fún ọmọ ọkùnrin wọn. Bi òbi bá ri ọmọ obinrin ti o dára ni idile ti o dára, wọn á lọ fi ara hàn lati tọrọ rẹ fún ọmọ wọn ọkunrin. Àṣà yi ti yàtọ̀ ni ayé òde òni, nitori awọn ọmọ igbàlódé kò wo idile tabi gbà ki òbi fẹ́ iyàwó tabi ọkọ fún wọn. Ọkùnrin àti obinrin ti lè má bára wọn gbé – wọn ti lè bi ọmọ, tabi jẹ ọ̀rẹ́ fún igbà pipẹ́ tabi ki wọn ṣẹ̀ṣẹ̀ pàdé, wọn yio fi tó òbi leti bi wọn bá rò pé awọn ti ṣetán lati ṣe ìgbéyàwó.

Mọ̀ mí, nmọ̀ ẹ́, jẹ ikan ninu ìgbésẹ̀ àkọ́kọ́ ninu ètò igbeyawo ibilẹ̀. Yorùbá ni “Ẹni tó lọ si ilé àna, lọ sọ èdè oyinbo, ni yio túmọ̀ rẹ”, nitori eyi ẹbi ọkọ kò gbọ́dọ̀ ṣe ìgbéraga ni ilé àna bi ó ti wù ki wọn ni ọlá tó. Ẹbi ọkọ yio tọ ẹbi iyàwó lọ lati fi ara hàn ati lati ṣe àlàyé ohun ti wọn ba wa fún ẹbi obinrin.

: Ohun mimu ìgbàlódé ninu ẹru mọ̀ mi, nmọ̀ ẹ́ – Carton of modern drink among other packages for introduction. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Ẹ̀bùn didi fún mọ̀ mi, nmọ̀ ẹ́ – Wrapped gifts for Introduction. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Àkàrà òyinbó, èso, pẹ̀lú ẹrù tó kù – Carton of biscuit, fruit plus other items. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Yorùbá ni “A ki lọ si ilé arúgbó ni ọ̀fẹ́”, nitori eyi, ẹbi ọkọ yio gbé ẹ̀bùn lọ fún ẹbi ìyàwó. Ọpọlọpọ igbà, apẹ̀rẹ̀ èso ni ẹbi ọkọ ma ngbé lọ fún ẹbi ìyàwó ṣugbọn láyé òde òni, wọn ti fi pãli èso olómi dipo apẹ̀rẹ̀ èso, ohun didùn, àkàrà òyinbó tabi ọti òyinbó dipò. Kò si ináwó rẹpẹtẹ ni ètò mọ̀ mí, nmọ̀ ẹ́, nitori ohun ti ẹbi ọkọ ba di dani ni ẹbi ìyàwó yio gba, ẹbi ìyàwó na yio ṣe àlejò nipa pi pèsè ounjẹ.

Mọ̀ mí, nmọ̀ ẹ́, o yẹ ki o fa ariwo, nitori ki ṣe gbogbo ẹbi lo nlọ fi ara hàn ẹbi àfẹ́-sọ́nà. A ṣe akiyesi pé awọn ti ó wá ni ilú nlá tabi awọn ọlọ́rọ̀ ti sọ di nkan nla. Èrò ki pọ bi ti ọjọ ìgbéyàwó ibilẹ. Ẹ ranti pé ki ṣe bi ẹbi bá ti náwó tó ni ó lè mú ìgbéyàwó yọri. Ẹ jẹ ki a gbiyànjú lati ṣe ohun gbogbo ni iwọntunwọnsin. Eyi ti o ṣe pataki jù ni lati gba ọkọ àti ìyàwó ni ìmọ̀ràn bi wọn ti lè gbé ìgbésí ayé rere.

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Originally posted 2015-03-24 09:30:01. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Obinrin ti kò ni orogún, kò ti mọ àrùn ara rẹ̀”: A woman who has no co-wife cannot yet identify her disease

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Òwe yi fi ara han ni itan iyàwó Aṣojú-ọba, ti a ò pè ni Tinumi pẹ̀lú ọmọ rẹ̀ kan ṣoṣo, ọkùnrin ti a mọ̀ si Mofẹ́. Mofẹ́ dàgbà lati fẹ obinrin. Ó̀ yan obinrin ti à ńpè ni Àyànfẹ́ ni iyàwó àfẹ́sọ́nà. Nigbati ó mú Àyànfẹ́ lọ han àwọn òbi rẹ, Bàbá Mofẹ́ gba Àyànfẹ́ tọwọ́-tẹsẹ̀, ṣùgbọ́n iyá Mofẹ́ fi àáké kọ́ri pé ọmọ ohun kò ni fẹ́ Àyànfẹ́. Wọn bẹ̀rẹ̀ idi ti kò ṣe fẹ́ ki ọmọ ohun fẹ ẹni ti ó múwá, Tinumi kò ri àlàyé ṣe ju pé ohun kò fẹ́ ki ọmọ ohun fẹ́ “Àtọ̀hún rin wa – ọmọ ti kò ni iran”. Ọmọ rẹ naa fi àáké kòri pé ẹni ti ohun ma fẹ ni Àyànfẹ́.

Tinumi sọ àfẹ́sọ́nà ọmọ rẹ di orogún, gbogbo ibi ti ó bá ti pàdé Àyànfẹ ni ibi àjoṣe ẹbi ni ó ti ḿbajà pé ki ó dẹ̀hin lẹhin ọmọ ohun. Àyànfẹ́ lé ọmọ rẹ titi ṣùgbọ́n ó kọ̀ lati dẹhin.

Lẹhin ọdún marun ti Mofẹ́ àti Àyànfẹ́ ti ńṣe ọ̀rẹ́, iwé jade pé wọn gbé Bàbá Mofẹ́. Gẹgẹ bi Aṣojú-Ọba lọ si Òkè-òkun. Bàbá ṣètò bi ọmọ àti iyàwó ti ma tẹ̀lé ohun. Ọmọ kọ̀ pé ohun kò lọ pẹ̀lú òbi ohun ti àfẹ́sọ́nà ohun kò bá ni tẹ̀lé àwọn lọ. Bàbá gbà pé ọmọ ohun ti tó fẹ́ iyàwó, wọn ṣe ètò igbéyàwó fún Mofẹ́ àti àfẹ́sọ́nà̀ rẹ. Lẹhin ti Mofẹ́ àti Àyànfẹ́ ṣe iyàwó tán, wọn tẹ̀lé Bàbá àti Ìyá wọn lọ si Òkè-okun lati má jọ gbé.

Àrùn ara Tinumi, aya Aṣojú-ọba bẹ̀rẹ̀ si han nitori ó sọ iyàwó ọmọ rẹ di orogún. Nigbati ọkọ rẹ ri àlébù yi, ó pinu lati wa orogún fun Tinumi nitori ai ni orogún ni ó ṣe sọ aya ọmọ rẹ di orogún. Gẹgẹ bi a ti mọ, igbéyàwó ibilẹ̀ kò ni ki ọkùnrin ma fẹ iyàwó keji. Nigbati Bàbá Mofẹ́ fẹ́ iyàwó kékeré, ọmọ àti iyàwó kó kúrò lọ si ilé tiwọn, inú rẹ bàjẹ́ nigbati o kũ pẹ̀lú orogún rẹ. Ó jẹ èrè iwà burúkú àti ìgbéraga.

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Originally posted 2014-06-20 13:30:24. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe ni Òkèrè – Àṣà ti ó mba Owó Ilú jẹ́”: “Destination Events – The Culture that is destroying the Local Currency”

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Yorùbá fẹ́ràn ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe púpọ̀ pàtàki fún igbéyàwó. Ni ayé àtijọ́, ìnáwó igbéyàwó kò tó bi ó ti dà ni ayé òde òni. Titi di bi ogoji ọdún sẹhin, ilé Bàbá Iyàwó tàbi ọgbà ẹbi ni wọn ti nṣe àpèjọ igbéyàwó. Ẹbi ọ̀tún àti ti òsi yio joko fún ètò igbéyàwó lati gba ẹbi ọkọ ni àlejò fún àdúrà gbi gbà fún àwọn ọmọ ti ó nṣe igbéyàwó àti lati gbà wọn ni ìyànjú bi ó ṣe yẹ ki wọn gbé pọ̀ ni irọ̀rùn. Ẹbi ọkọ yio kó ẹrù ti ẹbi iyàwó ma ngbà fún wọn, lẹhin eyi, ẹbi iyàwó yio pèsè oúnjẹ fún onilé àti àlejò. Onilù àdúgbò lè lùlù ki wọn jó, ṣùgbọ́n kò kan dandan ki wọn lu ilu tàbi ki wọn jó.

Nigbati ìnáwó rẹpẹtẹ fún igbeyawo bẹ̀rẹ̀, àwọn ẹlòmíràn bẹ̀rẹ̀ si jẹ igbèsè lati ṣe igbéyàwó pàtàki igbéyàwó ti Olóyìnbó ti a mọ si igbéyàwó-olórùka. Nitori àṣejù yi, olè bẹ̀rẹ̀ si jà ni ibi igbéyàwó, eyi jẹ́ ki wọn gbé àpèjẹ igbéyàwó àti àwọn ayẹyẹ yoku kúrò ni ilé. Wọn bẹ̀rẹ̀ si gbé àpèjẹ lọ si ọgbà ilé-iwé, ilé ìjọ́sìn tàbi ọgbà ilú àti ilé-ayẹyẹ.

: Igbéyàwó òkèrè ni Ilú Òyìnbó – Nigerian Wedding in London. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Igbéyàwó òkèrè ni Òkè-Òkun – Nigerian Wedding in Florida U.S.A. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Yorùbá fẹ́ràn ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe púpọ̀, ṣùgbọ́n àṣà tó gbòde ni ayé òde òni, ni igbéyàwó àti ayẹyẹ bi ọjọ́ ìbí ṣi ṣe ni òkèrè. Gẹgẹ bi àṣà Yorùbá, ibi ti ẹbi iyàwó bá ngbé ni ẹbi ọkọ yio lọ lati ṣe igbéyàwó. Ẹni ti kò ni ẹbi àti ará tàbi gbé ilú miran pàtàki Òkè-Òkun/Ilú Òyìnbó, yio lọ ṣe igbéyàwó ọmọ ni òkèrè. Wọn yio pe ẹbi àti ọ̀rẹ́ ti ó bá ni owó lati bá wọn lọ si irú igbéyàwó bẹ́ ẹ̀. Ẹbi ti kò bá ni owó, kò ni lè lọ nitori kò ni ri iwé irinna gbà. A ri irú igbéyàwó yi, ti ẹbi ọkọ tàbi ti iyàwó kò lè lọ. Eleyi wọ́pọ laarin àwọn Òṣèlú, Ọ̀gá Òṣìṣẹ́ Ìjọba àti àwọn ti ó ri owó ilú kó jẹ.

Igbéyàwó àti ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe ni òkèrè, jẹ́ ikan ninú àṣà ti ó mba owó ilú jẹ́. Lati kúrò ni ilú ẹni lọ ṣe iyàwó tàbi ayẹyẹ ni ilú miran, wọn ni lati ṣẹ́ Naira si owó ilu ibi ti wọn ti fẹ́ lọ ṣe ayẹyẹ, lẹhin ìnáwó iwé irinna àti ọkọ̀ òfúrufú. Ilú miran ni ó njẹ èrè ìnáwó bẹ́ ẹ̀, nitori bi wọn bá ṣe e ni ilé, èrò púpọ̀ ni yio jẹ èrè, pàtàki Alásè àti Onilù. A lérò wi pé ni àsìkò ọ̀wọ́n owó pàtàki owó òkèrè ni ilú lati ṣe nkan gidi, ifẹ́ iná àpà fún ayẹyẹ á din kù.

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Originally posted 2016-04-26 18:55:23. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Category Archives: Yoruba Traditional Marriage

Ìfẹ́ kò fọ́jú, ẹni ti ó wọnú ìfẹ́ ló fọ́jú: ‘Igbéyàwó ki ṣe ọjà òkùnkùn’ – Love is not blind, it is the person falling in love that is blind”: Marriage is not ‘Black Market’

“Èèmọ̀ ni ki ọkùnrin fẹ́ ọkùnrin tàbi ki obinrin fẹ́ obinrin ni Àṣà Yorùbá ” – “Same Sex Marriage is a strage occurrence to Yoruba Traditional Marriage”

“Àpẹrẹ Ẹrú ati Owó Àna fún Ìtọrọ Iyàwó ni Idilé Arinmájàgbẹ̀” – “Sample of List for Traditional Marriage Items and Bride Price from Arinmajagbe Family”

“Obinrin ki ṣe Ẹrú tabi Ẹrù ti wọn njẹ mọ́ Ogún – Àsikò tó lati Dáwọ́ Àṣà ṣì Ṣúpó Dúró” – “Women are not Slaves nor Property that can be inherited – “It is Time to Stop Bequeathing Widows to the Next-of-Kin.”

ÌGBÉYÀWÓ ÌBÍLẸ̀ – TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE

“Ni Ayé òde òni, njẹ́ ó yẹ ki a pọ́n Àṣà fi fẹ́ Iyàwó púpọ̀ lé ni Igbéyàwó Ìbílẹ̀ Yorùbá?” – “In Modern times, should Polygamy be encouraged in Yoruba Traditional Marriage?”

ẸRÙ FÚN ÌDÍLÉ ÌYÀWÓ – LIST FOR BRIDE’S FAMILY – Apá Kẹta – Part Three

Mọ̀ mí, nmọ̀ ẹ́, “Ẹni tó lọ si ilé àna, lọ sọ èdè oyinbo, ni yio túmọ̀ rẹ”: Introduction, “He who goes to speak grammar in the in-law’s place will interpret it”

“Obinrin ti kò ni orogún, kò ti mọ àrùn ara rẹ̀”: A woman who has no co-wife cannot yet identify her disease

“Ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe ni Òkèrè – Àṣà ti ó mba Owó Ilú jẹ́”: “Destination Events – The Culture that is destroying the Local Currency”

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